Where Do You Sit On The Self-Esteem Thermometer?

Imagine that we could measure Self Esteem like we do the temperature. If you had a healthy Self image, and respect for yourself you would be up the top of the thermometer. If you had an unhealthy self image or complete lack of self respect for yourself, then you would be at the bottom of the thermometer( Apt that this is the coldest part of the thermometer). Now if we divided the thermometer into 10 equal parts with the top of the thermometer being 10 and the bottom of the bowl 1 we could start to get a rough idea of wher we sit just by our behaviour.

Lets start at the bottom. 1 or 2- well if you had a self esteem of 1 you would be in hospital. It would mean that you have such little self respect that you could not enter into society.

3 or 4- In this case you would be in Society but not a pleasant part of it. You would be very negative, and see only the bad in others and the world as this reflects your view of yourself. Quite often were bullies and out casts sit.

5 or 6- This is an area that a large part of the world sits. It’s one that can teeter either up or down. Very mood related when things go good we feel good and when they don’t we feel bad.

People here have the ability to be nasty or nice.

7 or 8- If you are here you are more pleasant than anything. You generally feel good about yourself, so this reflects on your view of the world. You see the good in other peolple and situations and are generally positive, most of the time.

9 or 10- A very rare person. So happy with themselves that they tend to make everyuone feel good. Always smiling and in love with life whatever it brings. Often mislabelled as an optimist by 5’s and below because they can’t believe someone can feel so good about the world.

It’s amazing what measuring things change the way we look at things isn’t it? already you are reading this and thinking about where you sit. Well read on!

What is interesting about this analysis isn’t how we feel about ourselves , but how where we sit affects how we treat others. For instance lets start at the top this time. Anyone that is from 7-10 tend to treat everyone as if they are a 7-10. So if you are a 5 or 6 you will soon feel like a 7 or 8 if you mix with this group. You will praised, never surrounded by self depreciating humour and encouraged. Before long you really will be a 7 or higher.

However anyone that are a 3 or 4 also treat others the way they feel. So if they see a 5 or 6 they treat them as if they are a 3 or 4 and soon they will be. As long as the 5 or 6 hang around with the 3 or 4 they will be subjected to negativity and abuse. Sarcasm and anything else that stops that person from feeling good about themnselves. Often in large office blocks or school grounds the 3 and 4’s can be seen a s a dark cloud that wanders around trying to bring as many people down to their level as possible.

In simple terms 7 and above bring all around them up, 4 and below bring all around them down.

So what do you do if you find that you fit into the 3 or 4 category and want out. It’s really easy. Choose to change. It won’t be quick but if you become aware of everytimne your mean and nasty you are waving a flag to the trained people of the world that you don’t like yourself or aspects of your life, then recognise it yourself. Sit down and think of all the good things abuot yourself, and finally change who you hange around with. Australians are proudly loyal when it comes to friends. This is an admirable quality, but NO friend is worth having a miserable life for, and if they are true friends as you move onwards and upwards so will they.

At the Australian Acting Academy we have a comitment to making sure our students are the 8’s and above. We have a no teasing rule in the classesa that we do our best to enforce and we are total encouragement all the way to students while they are with us and in many cases even after they have moved on. Be aware that this simple behaviour monitoring can be the single most important thing in the future of every child teenager and adult. It’s not only guarenteeing happiness but success.

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